I Hate My Boss or Client
In order to be clear about the optimal path forward for you it is really important to understand what might be the key problem/challenge facing you. If you have not already done so, answer the following questions:
1. Is it your boss that you hate or are some other factors at work
causing you to feel this way?
2. Why do you hate your boss? How are you being treated?
i) Like an idiot.ii) With no respect.
iii) By an abusive or aggressive boss/management.
iv) In an inconsiderate manner.
v) He/she/they are making my life intolerable.
vi) He/she/they are being unfair.
vii) He/she/they favor someone else.
viii) He/she/they cannot manage people/me.
3. How long have you been treated like this?
4. How long have you been feeling this way?
5. Have you tried to explain how you feel to your boss or to HR or to someone that can influence the situation? No – Talk to your boss, HR or someone that you can confide in. Yes (skip to 6)
6. Do you believe you might have done anything to have caused yourself to be treated in the way you are being treated? Yes (skip to 9) No (skip to 7)
7. Is it just you being treated like this or are there others?
8. If others also feel negatively about the same person, do they feel the same way for the same or for different reasons?
9. If it is to your knowledge ‘just’ you being treated like this, if you were to apportion responsibility, how much is due to you and how much is due to your boss?
10. Is there anything you believe you can do to change the way your boss is treating you?
11. Aside from the adverse treatment by your boss, do you enjoy your work, work environment, working with your colleagues and/or with your clients (if relevant)? If you enjoy everything else about your work situation there is a more compelling reason to try and improve the situation with your boss.
If you feel the questions above are helpful in beginning to understand your situation and are ready to learn more, see Coaching/What I Do For You
SPARKIN CONNECTION If you know you want another job and you have a good sense that is more of the same (but with more responsibility/money/recognition) in a different organization.
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If you feel the above questions are helpful but you are unsure of ‘what’s next’ or uncertain about what the ‘optimal’ next step is or you are unclear ‘how to manifest’ a chosen direction but want to move forward, see Coaching/What I Do For You
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